Our life is like a train journey. Some people get on, and are there for the full ride; other peoples tickets are invalidated, and exit at the next stop.
It’s that time of the year where nearly every adult in the world is talking about cutting off people in 2017 in order to go into 2018 drama free. As great as it sounds, it would be beneficial if we were honest with who we should cut off, and actually follow it through.
Some of us read these Instagram posts and Facebook statuses that proclaim that it’s cutting off season and roll our eyes knowing that these are the very people we need to cut off.
Removing people from our personal space that do not have our best interest at heart need to go.
Below are the types of people I am talking about:
- The people who can never make time for you, but you’re always there for them, especially when others have let them down.
- Those who can never be happy for any of your accomplishments. They tend to ask questions first. Better yet, they either delay their message of congrats, or do not acknowledge it at all.
- Those who judge you, but have skeletons falling out of their own closet.
- The people who constantly tell you what you need to do in order to better in life, but are unwilling to try and fix their own problems.
- The ones who emotionally drain you. They offload all of their problems onto you, but they never seem to want to do anything about their situation. The same story gets tiresome.
- People who are fake. Those dishonest, talk behind, always in someone business other than their own type of people.
- Those who are always watching what you have, and either playing the victim and/or are too lazy to earn it.
- Those who measure success based on material items. No Darnell!
- The people who are stagnant in life, and no amount of push, motivation or help that you give them wants them to do better for themselves.
- People who you can’t learn from.
- The ones who severely lack communication skills. They text you weeks later, (or not at all) ignoring that you were meant to meet up, or just blatantly left the ticks blue on your WhatsApp message.
Let not the above discriminate. This goes for men, women, friends and family. Yes! FAMILY too dammit! We often excuse the behaviours of family just because they’re “blood”. So many of us have family members who we think to ourselves “they are so lucky that they’re family” or they would be cut off. CUT. THEM. LOOSE!
We need to be thinking that if this person wasn’t a family member, would they be involved in our life? If the answer is no, let them go!
As harsh as it sounds, I feel that anyone in your life should be there for a reason. Below are the types of people to have around you:
The Entertainer: These people you can always have a good time with. They make you laugh, and you can relax around them.
The Motivator: These people are always cheering you on, and telling you to go for it, and try again if you hit a hurdle.
The Advisor: A mentor, a specialist, or someone who has found the best route to accomplish something through the midst of their trials and tribulations. It may not be the best advice, but there is no malice behind their suggestions.
The Counterbalance. These are the people who are the opposite of ourselves. They can be blunt, straight to the point, and do not tend to sugar coat the reality of a matter at hand. These people still have your best interest at heart.
The Connector. The person who either knows a lot of people, or put you in touch with someone who can help you.
The counsellor. The person who you can open up to without being afraid that it will be passed onto to someone else, or they will judge you. Even though this is probably one of your closest friends, they can still give you impartial advice by analysing what you probably didn’t consider.
Below is my list of people who should be eliminated from our life in order for our continued growth, protection of health and inner peace:
- Those who spread negativity
- Those who criticize you all the time
- Those who waste your time
- Those who are jealous
- Those who play the victim
- Those who don’t care
- Those who are self-centred
- Those who keep disappointing you
Let us be picky about who we give our energy to. Reserve it for those who are worth it. It may take us time to see their real colours, but do not ignore the recurring signs.
Cutting off season shouldn’t just be a restricted to a few days before the start of the new year; it should be an ongoing project. There is no reason to wait to see what happens with an individual’s behaviour.
If someone makes a mistake, upsets you, or makes you question their behaviour etc. and they can’t own up to it AND apologise, let them go. One of the best ways to grow is by taking accountability and apologising. It is somewhat liberating doing this and everything is open in the air.
We are too grown to be scared of eliminating someone out of our life whilst we are causing ourselves upset and anxiety keeping them around.
Who are you cutting off today, and why? Personally, I have some “friends” who will be reading this knowing that their ticket is now invalid.
You owe it to yourself to be happy. Always. Not just the 1st of January.
♥